Overcoming An Eating Disorder in the Frum Community
Question:
I’ve been struggling with disordered eating and feel lost and alone. How can I address this while staying true to my Jewish values, considering all the complications it adds to an already difficult situation?
Answer:
It’s heartening to see your willingness to address this sensitive issue. In our community, the challenge of managing an eating disorder while adhering to frum values is indeed complex, but it’s important to remember that seeking help does not need to compromise your religious identity.
Eating disorders, whether it's anorexia, bulimia, or binge-eating disorder, are not simply matters of willpower; they involve intricate mental health issues that require compassionate and knowledgeable care. It's crucial to approach recovery with both clinical expertise and a deep respect for your values.
Here’s how you can start addressing this issue:
Seek Specialized Care: It’s vital to find a therapist experienced in eating disorders who understands the nuances of frum life. This ensures that your treatment plan aligns with your values and needs.
Incorporate Meal Coaching: Meal coaching can be incredibly beneficial. It helps in establishing regular eating patterns and overcoming fear foods, all while providing support during meal times. This aligns well with maintaining a balanced approach to food within the framework of our practices.
Embrace Holistic Healing: Integrate Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to manage emotions and develop a healthier relationship with food. If you need to go to a treatment center, find one that will accommodate Shabbos and kosher observances.
Remember, your journey to recovery is a path to healing, not just for yourself but for your community as well.
Stay strong in your commitment to both your health and your faith. May Hashem guide you and bring you the support and strength needed for a successful recovery.
With blessings,
Shlomo
