Finding Your Own Voice in the System
Question:
I feel like I'm losing myself in the yeshiva system. How can I live my own life while keeping all the things my parents and teachers want from me?
Answer:
Finding a balance between personal growth and communal expectations can be a challenge. You want to experience the world with all that it has to offer, and you might be feeling held back by rules that you didn’t choose for yourself.
Here’s how you can retain your individuality while staying connected with your yeshiva life:
Self-Awareness: Begin by understanding your unique strengths and passions. Reflect on what truly excites you within your Yiddishkeit and how it aligns with your personal values.
Open Dialogue: Engage in honest conversations with your mashpia or mentor. Express your feelings and concerns. A supportive mashpia may help you find ways to integrate your personal growth with your yeshiva experience.
Set Personal Goals: Establish goals that reflect your interests and values. Whether it's in your learning, chesed activities, or personal development, setting these goals can help you stay motivated and engaged.
Maintain Connection: It’s important to stay connected with friends who share your values. They can offer support and keep you grounded in your personal journey.
Remember, it’s possible to honor both your personal growth and your commitment to Yiddishkeit.
Your voice is valuable, and listening to it attentively as you go about your life can enrich both your spiritual and personal growth.
With Blessings,
Shlomo
